Some of the scariest aspects of moving into adulthood are often based around the changes that occur to you physically and emotionally. Your body is maturing and you might be developing sexual feelings towards another person. Some of the most common questions young people often ask include:
- Are the changes happening to my body normal?
- Are the feelings that I am experiencing normal?
- How can I stop myself getting pregnant?
- Where can I go to get contraceptives?
- How would I know if I have got a sexually transmitted disease?
- When will I know when I am ready to have sex?
We can help you to discuss any worries that you might have about any of these things.
Adolescence is a time of great change and it might sometimes seem that all your friends seem to know everything about sex and all say they are ‘doing it ‘ even when they are not, and trying to decide whether you are ready for sex can be really difficult .
Here are some things to consider:
- You may feel that you should have sex because everyone else says they are. It is healthier for you to decide for yourself when you want to have sex and to be comfortable about saying ‘no‘ if you want to.
- Really positive and loving relationships do not have to involve sex if you don’t want them to. Talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend about this and find ways together of enjoying each other’s company without feeling pressured into having sex because it is expected.
- Alcohol and drugs can make you feel less inhibited and take more risks, so plan to take care of yourself in these situations by developing the confidence to say ‘no ‘ if you don’t want to have sex.
- If you feel you are ready for a sexual relationship, talk about what contraceptives you will use before you start. Unprotected sex can result in pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases’, so being prepared is essential to avoid either of these situations.
What can we do for you?
Here at ‘Off The Record’ we have a team of skilled and supportive staff that can help you to talk about all aspects of sex and relationships. In a warm and friendly environment, that is safe and confidential, we can help you to decide what is right for you and where to get practical help if you need it.
The ways in which you can contact us to get support are:
- By Phone
- Via Email
- Drop in to our centre in Havant where you can talk to a member of the team who may arrange for you to see a counsellor.
Contact us we’re here to help.